Is There A Difference Between Self Care And Self Love?

Self Care vs Self Love

Is there a difference between the two? Some people say yes, it is a difference because self care is how you take care of yourself and self love is how you treat yourself. I believe that self care and self love go together like twin flames. You can not have one without the other. Self love mirrors the self care that you give yourself. Where there is no care………….there is no love.


Think about the passionate relationship you were in. When you just knew that you were in love and would spend the rest of your life with this person. You cared deeply and made sure that they were taken care of by nurturing them.

How Did You Care?

  • You cared by treating them a particular way.

  • You may have called to make sure they got home safe.

  • You fixed their collar when it was out of place.

  • Maybe you rubbed their back when it was aching and pleaded for them to go to the doctor if things did not get better.

  • The fact of the matter is that you made sure that they were their very best because that’s the person you loved.

It’s so easy to do that for others but, what about yourself? When it comes to you the mind wants to separate the two. Somehow, we can get lost in physically taking care of our outer appearance but the inner being is neglected. Have you ever heard of the statement, “Thank God I don’t look like what I’ve been through”. Yeah, I have and I always questioned that belief even though I have said it myself.

Do you really just want to look the part or be the part?


You should strive to look and be the part. Both lets you and the world know that YOU is your top priority. You take care of yourself because you love yourself. When you love yourself the goal is to be the best version of yourself. That process is not always golden with sunshine and clear beautiful skies.

Taking care of yourself can sometimes be lonely. It can be downright sad and complex. You may learn things about yourself that you do not like. You will find times that you question your beliefs given to you by your parents. You will have doubts and concerns. You are human. As a human being you have deep layers to be discovered. However, because of the love that you have for yourself you are determined to take care of yourself properly.

What Does Self Care and Self Love Look Like?

It looks like:

  • Addressing your past hurts and seeking treatment if needed to be mentally healthy

  • Speaking to yourself with positive words and affirmations because you are royalty.

  • Avoiding people, places, and things in your life that promote negative outcomes and negative energy

  • Making sure your finances are in order and learning ways to be financially healthy

  • Being in control of your emotions and learning how and what should give your energy. (Every action doesn’t need a reaction)

  • Taking care of your mind and heart by practicing spirituality. Whether that is a church, meditation, crystal healing, etc. You choose what path is right for you.

  • Learning the art of communication and boundaries in order to be heard and to understand what is being said

Self Care and Self Love is not a complicated process. If you allow the process to flow naturally you will see that doing one will create the other. So invest in your self-care and let it be more than what you appear to the world. Be madly and passionately in love with YOU. Get all wide-eyed and excited about what you can do for you so that you are your very best.

Leave a comment below and let us know your opinion. How do you practice self-care and self-love?